You can't make anyone do anything. You can, however, motivate them to treat you with respect, by acting in a way which commands that. (You can even do that half naked, believe it or not.)
What do you think would happen if you just let everything go? All the bullshit. All the excuses, and dramatic justifications you offer up- when people ask why things aren't how you want them to be?
Study hard, and maintain an excellent career.... ... while you raise the kids you had to take time off to give birth to.
If you have to ask yourself if your man is lying to you, your question is already answered.
You can't claim to be moderating your outgoing fucks carefully, if you're allowing the things people say TO you and do AROUND you, to affect your core.
If nobody is in the dating pool... then you're gonna be skinny dipping alone. Fucking boring.
Oh hey there. Sorry about the silence. (Dear diary, it happened again.) I thought I had a job, you see, but it turns out I just had a bit of bullshit stuck on me. Once I realized I could make more money giving handjobs at the bus stop...... why would I even bother? I didn't …
I have a surplus of ultra fine glitter to wipe the smile off your face.
Show him the silhouette, but not the whole goddamn taco kit, like you don't fucking value yourself.
Stir only when it looks like it's losing interest in you. Add fuckboys to taste.....